You Are Not Your Emotions

I would like to share with you a short story.

A few years ago, I was working in an office and was amongst negative co-workers. We would have meetings with management and my co-workers would join and we would have a discussion. Being a positive and optimistic person myself, I’m always keen in providing solutions while the others would complain, whine and look at all the problems why something wouldn’t work.

At the end of the meeting, I would return back to my desk and continue working. However instead of feeling optimistic and positive, I would feel super negative and just have the feeling of quitting my job of a sudden. Instead of having compassion towards others, I would judge and criticise others and look at their problems.

After stewing in my negative emotions for an hour, I came to a realisation. I realised that I am not my emotions. I know that for a fact, I’m a pretty positive and optimistic person but why is it that all of a sudden, I’m feeling so negative? What has caused this of a sudden?

It was the meeting with the energy vampires. The meeting with negative and toxic people dumping their trash into everyone’s mind.

Emotions Are Not You

I then realised that the emotions I was feeling was not me. It was their negative energy dumping onto me. How I was feeling was not me and emotions was a completely separate entity that always changes in particular situations. So how did I go from negative back to positive?

I went for a walk to a nearby park and had my lunch there. Spending my lunch break at a nearby park, absorbing the sun, the energy from the trees and plants, I felt instantly refreshed. I felt alive again. Energetic and positive.

I came back to the office and felt 500% better. I was happy and back to my usual self.

I guess the lesson behind this is that you are not your emotions.

Whatever you are feeling right now, it could be because of a conversation with a toxic person. I remember my house mate would always be on the phone with her “friend”. They would talk for hours about gossip and drama. Whenever I would go to the kitchen and sometimes see her, I would feel so much negativity from her and she would just say the most negative and toxic ideas ever.

It was then I would distance myself from her and not let her dump garbage into my mind.

Energy Can’t Be Destroyed

This goes to show that energy can not be destroyed, it can only be transferred. When you are conversing with negative people, their negative energy will transfer onto you and hence you’ll have negative emotions. I’m sure you’ve experienced this many times when you’ve walked into a room when someone has just had a serious argument.

You can feel the negative vibes and you would walk away feeling it.

That’s your emotions adapting to the energy in the room.

So by recognising that how you feel does not define you and quite liberating. Most people who feel depressed all the time attach depression and sadness as their personality. However if you detach how you feel as a completely separate entity and you are a being who absorbs different energy fields, then you no longer are affected by emotions and view them subjectively.

I hope this article helps you manage your emotions. If you’re going through sadness, fear or massive adversity, don’t worry. Time heals all wounds and nothing in life is ever permanent. Always remember that you are not your emotions and you could of absorbed those emotions from someone else.

It’s your duty to cleanse those negative emotions by spending time with positive people, experience nature and even solitude through meditation.

Stay Strong and Be Relentless.

Khoa Bui

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Author: Khoa Bui

Khoa Bui is an author, trainer and chief editor of YouBeRelentless. He enjoys reading books on self development, success, productivity, money, relationships and leadership. When he’s not writing, he likes to enjoy a glass of red wine with a fine cuban cigar while watching the entire season of Entourage. You can check out Khoa’s work at

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