What I Learned From Over 500 Rejections and How To Handle Rejections

A few years ago, I was working in corporate and was in charge of delivering large scale projects across Australia. Unfortunately, this company went under and I lost my job. It was a high paying job so I was earning good money and saving good money too.

As soon as I lost my job, I actually took a break for a few weeks to clear my head and then get back into the job hunting scene.

It was ruthless. Going for interviews, getting rejected, sending out resumes, getting rejected, speaking to recruitment and managers on the phone and getting rejected, people telling you you’re not good enough and they will keep your records on file.

I must of sent out over hundreds of resumes and my mail box was just flooded with instant rejections. I would open up an email from HR and as soon as I see the word “unfortunately” I would move onto the next email.

This went on for several months. Spending money travelling to interviews, paying for food on your credit card and watching your bank account drain since you lost your once source of income.

It wasn’t easy and in fact, it was scary. However at the end of my ordeal, I landed the job and was earning big money again.

Below are some of the things I learnt from getting 400 rejections on the phone, email and face to face.

You get used to it.

Your first rejection is always the hardest. If you start questioning your ability, this will affect your confidence and people will sense it. By all means, don’t let it affect you and your confidence. Don’t take it personally and keep pushing. Even if you know you will get rejected, do it anyway. Keep pushing and don’t give up! Eventually you’ll get used to rejection and it won’t bother you anymore.

You change your attitude towards rejection.

When I was getting over the initial shock of being rejected instantly, to be honest, my attitude started to change. Rejection no longer affected me as it once did and I realised that in order for me to get another job, I would need to go through as many rejections as possible. It’s impossible to get a job without applying for one and you have to expect to get rejected. You can never send one resume and expect to get accepted instantly.

Chase rejection. 

After a while, I realised that in order for me to get another job, I would need to chase rejection instead of avoid it. I clearly saw that the more rejections I received, the more chances of me landing the job that I wanted. So when I changed my mindset from avoiding rejection, I changed it to “I want more rejection” because eventually it will swing in my favour and I will win.


I never forget the moment when I got the job. The lady on the phone said they would like to offer me the position and know I would fit in very well. When I hung up the phone, I was over the moon and I played the old school song “Good Vibrations” by Marky Mark. It was then I realised that handing rejections is a skill. It’s the way you see rejection that is really important and determines your success.

If you want to date that gorgeous woman you normally see on Instagram, you have to approach and get rejected by as many beautiful women as you can. Because eventually, one will say yes and that makes all the difference. All it takes is just one yes and your life will change.

Stay Strong and Be Relentless.

Khoa Bui

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Author: Khoa Bui

Khoa Bui is an author, trainer and chief editor of YouBeRelentless. He enjoys reading books on self development, success, productivity, money, relationships and leadership. When he’s not writing, he likes to enjoy a glass of red wine with a fine cuban cigar while watching the entire season of Entourage. You can check out Khoa’s work at www.khoa-bui.com.

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