The 4 Reasons Why Nice Guys Finish Last

Taking a page from the dating industry, nice guys finish last. When I was growing up, I was the nice guy. I thought that by being the nice guy, girls will like me and I’ll be relationship happily ever after. Boy was I wrong. After what I’ve been through, building inner strength and confidence is vital to succeed in today’s environment.

It was only when I was cheated on and dumped by several women, I became street smart and learned valuable lessons in dating.

Nice Guys Get Pushed Around

When you become a nice guy who doesn’t stand up for himself, you get pushed around. The world can easily pick up on who’s the confident guy and who’s the nice guy. The nice guy would walk around with a sheepish body language which would be a sign that he’s weak. Sub consciously, people would just know that they can f*ck with this guy and get away with things.

As a result, the nice guy loses more confidence and continues a downward spiral. I’ve seen men who look like they are confident but they get pushed around and get treated like garbage by others. As a result, they hold back their opinions and regret eats them inside. Don’t become the nice guy who gets pushed around.

Nice Guys Lose Respect Of Others

Once you’re labeled the nice guy, you lose respect of women and also the men as well. I’m sure you know a guy in high school who always got pushed around in school. He was the nice guy. I was that nice guy too so I understand where he’s coming from. When you’re the nice guy, you lose respect from others and they continually push you around and have their way with you.

Respect is an important trait to have. When you feel respected, you do more and create more. Your self esteem goes up and you end up conquering once more. When you lose the respect of others, this messes with your head if you let it. You can either cut them out from your life and go back to basics and rebuild yourself.

Nice Guys Are Weak

Nothing is worse than being a weak guy. After millions of years of evolution, men’s purpose is to be the strong protector. Not the weakling who has turned into a vegan. Men are the lions who hunt, kill and provide for their family. It is what it is. So when you’re acting like a wimp, women will be turned off naturally. They can’t help it, it’s millions of years of evolution.

You don’t mess with this stuff. Stay away from being the nice weak guy and start building confidence and inner strength. You’ll find that women will respond differently.

Nice Guys Stay In A Vicious Cycle

Nice guys feel like that need to be saved. Because of their self confidence issues, they project this onto others. There words and actions all resemble “please help me or save me” This is a big turn off for women and other men lose respect. When you’re in that state of “needing to be saved” you’re screwed and you’ve sealed your own fate. It’s a vicious cycle and it’s hard to get out of if you don’t reach that breaking point.


But you know what? At the end of it all, these traits are good because once the nice guy finally reaches that pivotal point in his life where he says “I’ve had enough!” and starts doing things for him, that’s when he truly realises that all the pain and suffering he’s been through was a teacher in disguise. He now gets to do and say what he wants.

I know this article seems pretty harsh but I’m the messenger. Life deals us a bad hand and tends to throw us a lot of sh*t tests. Fear not, I would like to leave you a quote I discovered recently that can really help you in times of crisis.

“Hard times create strong men,

Strong men create good times,

Good times create weak men,

Weak men create bad times”

Stay Strong and Be Relentless my man.

Khoa Bui

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Author: Khoa Bui

Khoa Bui is an author, trainer and chief editor of YouBeRelentless. He enjoys reading books on self development, success, productivity, money, relationships and leadership. When he's not writing, he likes to enjoy a glass of red wine with a fine cuban cigar while watching the entire season of Entourage. You can check out Khoa's work at

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