Have you ever wondered how people tend to remain calm amongst the insurmountable challenges they face? No they’re not superman but they do possess a powerful skill which is remaining calm.
So why should we remain calm? Isn’t it better to lose your sh*t and vent it out instead of sitting there and about to explode?
Although there is a time and place to vent out your frustrations, I do kickboxing by the way, but most of the time, you need to stay cool and collected.
The reason why it’s so important to remain calm in the eye of the storm is that you draw upon valuable emotional resources that is required to solve problems during a time of crisis. The worse thing you can do is panic and react to all sorts of emotions. As a result, you will end up creating more problems rather than slowly solving problems.
When I was young, last year of course lol, I had no concept of managing my emotions. I simply reacted to all sorts of events and people. As a result, I was living life in a pure emotional rollercoaster with no end. As life throws you many sh*t tests, you’re always reacting by throwing tantrums.
Add up the years of throwing tantrums and you end up with a life fuelled with emotional outbursts.
It was then I realised that there is no end to solving life’s problems. Life will always throw you new problems even though you’ve solved the old ones. Once you accept this, you will view problems as simply a way of life and that how you react to them will determine the quality of your life.
When I started my business, the problems I used to have when I was younger didn’t disappear. Instead, I had even more problems and bigger ones too. I had financial problems, client problems, business problems, personal problems, health problems, relationship problems and down right stupid problems.
I had no idea what I was doing except all the problems that kept on hitting me never stopped. It was then I finally gave up and accepted that this is the way it is. The problems will never stop and hence I need to stay calm and solve problems from a logical point of view.
Instead of throwing a tantrum when the client gets angry, I would remain calm and slowly fix problems at hand. As I practiced doing this, I realised that it was the better way of handling life’s problems. You can still effectively solve problems without being emotional.
After solving several problems by being logical rather than emotional, I found that I was much more happier and also more resourceful.
Have you ever noticed in a company that when a problem occurs, everyone tends to look at the leader. The leader is always calm, collected and solves problems from a detached point of view. This is the trait of a leader. He/she is calm in the eye of the storm and everyone looks to this person for leadership.
It does take bit of practice to get used to but once you get into the habit of tackling problems from a calm state of mind, you simply can’t go back to the way things were.
Stay Strong and Be Relentless.