One of the biggest problems with stress is that we tend to absorb negative energy from people and events. For example let’s say that you’re at work and you’re minding your own business. The day is going well, you’re on top of your projects and you’re feeling pretty productive and happy with yourself. All of a sudden, a co-worker walks in and screams at everyone because someone stole her phone.
She immediately blames you and tells you off. You of course, have your own phone and would never steal at work. However despite all this, the good mood you had before is now replaced with a pissed off attitude kindly donated by your co-worker.
This is how you increase your stress levels. You absorb negative energy from these energy vampires. If you don’t know how to protect yourself and set healthy boundaries, these energy vampires will always step all over you and take away your positive energy.
So how do you protect yourself?
You cut emotional cords.
I learned this concept from a wonderful person who teaches mediation and detachment. She’s an empath, meaning she’s empathetic towards others and sensitive to their emotions. She’s also a psychologist whereby she’s continually helping people with their mental problems every single day.
It’s not easy to maintain a positive attitude when people you see are always dumping their negative energy onto you. Therefore she mentioned a powerful secret to herself preserving her emotional energy.
She described this as cutting emotional cords. So at the end of the day, she would arrive home and tell herself that she is now cutting all emotional cords that has been connected to her throughout the day. She would imagine all these cords being cut and she is now free and grounded in her own positive energy.
When I heard this, I thought this was absolutely brilliant for we need a way to release all the negative emotions that’s been dumped onto us. Another caveat to this is that we don’t know whether the emotions that we have are ours and someone elses. Back to the example before, if you were in a good mood, that was your emotions that was generated. However afterwards, you felt negative and this was the result of someone else dumping their emotions onto you.
Sometimes we don’t know who’s emotions were are experiencing and we confuse it with our own. In order to stay grounded and positive, try the energy protection technique which is cutting all emotional cords at the end of the day. You’ll feel happier and more grounded in life.
Stay Strong and Be Relentless.