At the end of the day, it’s all a numbers game. Whether you’re applying for a job, asking women out on a date, getting a sale or even attempting to finish a video game, it’s all probability and numbers.
Sometimes we get wrapped up in the emotions of the event. If we get rejected, we default to blaming ourselves and making it about us personally. We attach to the event and make it all about us. We even go as deep as saying that we’re not worthy, we’re a failure and we are at fault.
However, nothing is further from the truth. The event is only the event, it doesn’t define who you are. You are practically participating inside an event. The event is an external entity that doesn’t define who you are.
Let’s say that you’re having a tough time at work. You have a lot of deadlines. Your boss has given you a ton of reports to finish by the end of the day and then all of a sudden, some crisis happens such as the higher ups steps in and also gives you a hard time. You of course become stressed out and start panicking for you have to get everything done.
At this point in time, you may feel overwhelmed and start doubting yourself. You may think that you’re not good enough and perhaps you should quit your job.
You see, what happens externally is not in your control. You can not control your boss, you can not control your job, you can not control life for it will always change. So therefore, how can you associate yourself to external events when they are constantly changing and out of your control?
You simply can’t. You have to let go of your attachment to external events and not make it about you. You are not your emotions and you are not your events.
Hence, when approaching some sort of goal, remember that in order for you to achieve that particular goal, you have to go through series of setbacks, failures, rejections and sadness for a while. It’s just the way it is and you can’t mess with this universal power. It seems as if we have to go through struggles before we attain some sort of goal.
Hence, the best attitude you can ever adopt is to look at the attainment of your goal as just a numbers game. In order to date the woman you want, you have to go through a series of rejections. In order to get the job you want, you have to attend a lot of interviews and get rejected. In order to close more sales, you need to get rejected by a lot of customers.
At the end, it’s all a numbers game and never attach yourself to external events.
Stay Strong and Be Relentless.